Gazing Into the Crystal Ball That is Your Future
The fact that you are reading means that you probably want to have more for your life than you do right now.
Maybe you are just like me, a hopelessly driven person who has had some hard-ass bumps in the road, so to speak.
Because you, like me, are a divorce lawyer, you are probably used to at least some success. You got into law school, you got your law degree, and you passed your bar.
And maybe as you are reading this, you, like me, also want to enjoy more success than you already have.
I know that my life started kinda going off the rails as soon as I got called to the bar. I had “arrived” after all . . . so all the discipline, great habits I developed, started to falter. Because I had “arrived,” I started to take it easy . . . this meant that I drank every night. I stopped looking after my physical body. I ate out at restaurants every day. I overspent using consumer credit. I worked during the day and partied on nights and weekends.
It was an endless loop of working hard during the day and then playing playing playing.
Sure, I had lots of fun, but I always seemed to be repeating yesterday.
Each day was more of the same.
Now that I think about it . . . how ELSE was it going to turn out?! There was absolutely no other possibility that things were going to go off the rails eventually. Sheesh, I marvel at the fact that I was actually surprised when things fell apart.
It was not until I bit off more than I could financially chew that I got off the endless loop of monotony and saw other possibilities. I did not come to this realization through what felt like Divine Inspiration but through sheer terror instead. I was sooooo stressed and fearful!
Because of the sheer desperation regarding my finances, Law Society problems, marital problems, and suffering health, that I began to explore the possibility that my life could look different than it had been looking. I had tons and tons and tons of growth opportunities.
What I realized is that I wanted to grow and expand. I wanted to boost my income. I wanted to experience a healthy body again. I wanted to have enjoyable relationships. More than anything, I wanted to have a tangible impact on what I see as the very broken and toxic industry of family law. It occurred to me that I have a choice about how I approach my work. I have a choice about the way I serve my clients. I choose the kind of life I want to live and the impact I want to make.
Maybe you are like I used to be and feel trapped in your life and feel as if you have no choice. Well, you do. Putting it bluntly, if I can turn my ship around, you can too.
The irony is that I would not change a thing.
So, what about you?
How bad does it have to get before you stop repeating yesterday?
Here is the big question, if you lived your life for the next three years the exact same way you lived this past week, what will your life look like three years from now? When I say the same way I mean:
You ate the same food;
You worked the same hours;
You helped the same clients;
You exercised (or not) the same amount;
You consumed the same amount of alcohol;
You interacted with your spouse the same way;
You interacted with your kids the same way . . .
I asked this question of one of my coaching clients recently, and their eyes opened wide, and not in a good way. Seeing the realization wash over them.
As a result, this client is in action. This client is building the foundation of creating the life of law practice of their dreams . . .
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Maybe I am not your answer right yet; however, the very fact that you are here, tells me that you are exploring expansion in your life somehow. The point is to do something to move you forward . . . is it learning a new skill? Is it reading a book you always wanted to just for the fun of it? Is it about taking time to move your body? . . . what is it for you?!
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