Hi there, it’s Val!
Today I want to talk to you about the fact that it’s kind of a special day. I’m filming this on October 11, 2019 and a year ago today, I made the decision to leave my very unhappy marriage. To be clear, it was unhappy for a long time, and when people would say I officially ended it, I was constructively dismissed.
I was in a really dark place. Not when I finally agreed to pull the plug, but my life was stuck in so many ways for so many years I had financial struggles. I had gained 40 pounds in the previous year. I didn’t spend any time at all in the woods. Maybe 20-40 minutes a week even though it’s a huge part of what I absolutely love to do.
My life was empty. I’d come home from work, binge on Netflix, my teenage daughter and I weren’t really talking. Our home was quiet like a tomb. There was no laughter, fun, ridiculousness (which I love).
Yet, when I did finally pull the pin, and thought all the pain was...
Today let's talk about how you prepare your life when you've had major crap happen.
Those of you who know me quite well, know that I went through a separation recently. It was a big deal for me. I was constructively dismissed from our marriage. Ultimately I pulled the pin because it was unbearable, but at the same time he left me years ago in his heart and I just couldn't live that way anymore.
I lived a certain life or way of being for 18 years. No matter how much pain we caused eachother, or how hurt we were in the end, or how much we have our own narrative, one thing I can say for sure is that I know when I met my husband and for the first 11 years or so, there's no question that he was my soulmate. I loved him deeply, and there was a profound incredible amazing connection there.
When I say it was a big deal to separate from my husband, it was a BIG deal. It took 8 years of my relationship being terrible before I could actually take the step to leave (and...
Today I want to talk more abundance. You’ve been hearing me go on about abundance and abundance mindset lately. For me, although I’ve been in the practice of trying to tap into, understand, get, absorb the abundance in which I live, I slip just like the next guy. For sure.
One of the other things is if you look at me from an external 3D world, because I lost a million dollars on a property that I’ve been working to pay off, a lot of people might look at me and go “HOly cow how can she be so abundant because she’s got all that debt?!”
If you think that has scared me in the past, it has. Full on terror about that. No question. Absolutely completely terrified.
ALthough I’ve had this debt I’ve also been wanting to tap into the abundance in which I live and there’s a lot in my life that I am grateful for. I live in a beautiful home (it has a big mortgage now on it thanks to my mistake), I work in a wonderful office with wonderful...