Today I want to talk to you about how you end financial stress starting right this second, right this moment without another worry.
How do you do that?
There's a quote that goes I've had a lot of worries in my life, some of which have actually happened. That's what we do, don't we? We worry worry worry.
I was talking to a friend of mine and she said that in her financial life, she worked her butt off all the time. In her mind, she never seems to be able to get ahead. She says she works (a lot) and yet when she's not working, she's worried about money which really drains her energy. When her energy is drained, she feels like she needs a treat, then goes out to get it and does something that's not in alignment with what she wants to grow to and create in her life.
Using my friend as an example, she loves to travel and it's totally in alignment with what she wants to do and how she wants to experience her life. When she's working, she's saving up for her trips which is awesome. But then she's always worrying and feeling really drained about worrying about enough money to travel, how hard she's working, and what a drag it is. Then she gets home and starts online shopping - not at all in alignment with what she wants to create in her life.
For some people that might be in alignment with them, but for my friend, it's not. She's ended up looping around in this worry all the time which hasn't served her.
How do you stop the loop? The biggest way to stop worrying is stopping it.
We know that the Universe, our 3D world , we are very emotional. The very fact that we are emotional makes things happen in our 3D reality. Scientifically proven!
In late 2018, I bought a law office, lost $1 million dollars, and by the end of it I was $1.7 million in debt. I had worked my butt off for 10-12 years, it felt like I was going backwards, and it was a nightmare. Absolute nightmare.
This cost me a lot of things. I had health problems, family problems, my husband and I ultimately split up.
A little backstory, a lot of the time, lawyers put their house in their spouse's name so if we get sued, our house isn't in jeopardy. I did this. Now, my house is always something I've seen as my house. Even though my husband was living in my house I put it in his name years ago.
I was working my butt off and I wanted to do a re-finance of my mortgage because I wasn't able to keep up with all the payments because of this big loss I had.
I owed a lot of money, and I hadn't filed my taxes, but I had this amazing mortgage broker who was in fact able to get an my approved for a mortgage where all the tax debt would be paid out.
We were so excited.
Now, remember that just before this happened, my husband and I had just split up. He was mad at me about the financial situation for sure, however he hadn't contributed for a long time.
When I went to file my back-taxes, I had to get my husband to sign the mortgage because the house is still in his name. I thought, "It's going to be no problem, we're going to transfer the mortgage, it's fine."
The day before the mortgage was supposed to go through, he decided not to sign.
I lost my mind, fell apart, had a nervous breakdown.
I was on the verge of everything falling a part in a huge way. Losing everything I had ever worked for for over 2 decades, the home that's so important to me, my daughter's home, my step-daughter's home, my dog's home. I had to ensure that I was on the straight and narrow vis a vis my financial picture with the Law Society. It all came out from under me.
I was fearful, terrorized, and afraid. I never would have thought 10 years of this massive financial stress was going to come to an end, it all looked like it was going the other direction.
What I needed from my husband was for him to cooperate. What I had forgotten was he hadn't been cooperative on anything for years. Sure he'd go sign stuff if I'd ask him to, but other than that he wasn't cooperating with me in any way.
I was freaking terrified I was so afraid.
Now I'm telling you this story so you can see how you can change your reality by giving up the stress. Every time I was terrified, which was about 87 times a day, I moved my attention. I would listen to audio books that were high vibration (linked below), I would imagine my husband being in the light and full of light, and remembering that even though I was really mad at him, inside he was a totally honorable person.
The worry didn't get me anywhere. It didn't help, it drained me, it made me distracted from the job I had to do, distract me from parenting and running my household.
At the end of the day, he did sign that mortgage and we did end up with a very honorable separation agreement. Sure, I didn't end up with no debt, but it's all awesome and it's all working out.
When you are going through crushing financial stress, follow these steps:
Step 1: Move your attention
Step 2: Let it go
Step 3: Move your attention again, and fill your head with high vibration audio, podcasts, inspirational books, or whatever fills your soul
This is Val, and I am so excited that you're listening to this.
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Here are the books I mention that helped move my attention: