Are you weird?
Well, I certainly hope so.
For most of us lawyers, we are compliant sorts. We worked hard in school. We didn’t get sent to the principal’s office. We did what we were supposed to do. Yet, some of us are still weird.
Weird is wonderful.
Of Germanic origin, the word, “weird” has its roots in the Old English “wyrd” which means ‘having the power to control destiny’,
Yes, please. I want to be weird. And yes, people have said I am weird.
Is it not time that more of us divorce lawyers admitted our weirdness and stopped trying to fit in to the idea of what a proper lawyer should be?
Isn’t it time that we stopped being so freaking Judge-y? That is judge-y of other lawyers, judge-y of our clients. You get it. And wait, do you ever notice that the BEST judges are the ones who are NOT judgey??
You know what kind of people are weird? Steve Jobs was weird. Did you ever hear about him being a fruitarian?
Helena Bonham Carter is weird. She dresses, even on her off time like a gypsy witch. She has delighted audiences around the world. Remember her as the Red Queen in Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland? How much of that role was she acting and how much of that role was she just being her absolutely weird self?
What about David Bowie? His eccentric nature made him an innovator in terms of, not only music, but fashion and self-confidence. He was weird. He made androgyny cool and glam a way of life for young rockers around the globe. It reminds me of this quote that struck me:
“If you're sad today, just remember the world is over 4 billion years old and you somehow managed to exist at the same time as David Bowie.”
― Simon Pegg
Then there is Elton John, Lady Gaga, Nicholas Cage, Prince, and Walt Disney. They are all weird.
Where would our world be without these weirdos?
Weird People Change the World.
Weird are those who speak their minds and are told to be quiet.
Being weird means being noticeably different. It means being or doing something that makes other people stare, or laugh. Being weird means that the status quo folks might not like you so much. I sure know this one.
What if we saw that being weird is something we should cultivate.
You know who else is weird? Thought leaders are weird. Thought leaders like Tim Ferriss (the 4-Hour work week anyone) and Elon Musk (yes, please, let’s move to Mars).
You know who else is weird? Divorce lawyers who give a shit. Lawyers who want to transform this broken, combative, stressful profession and who want to be in service for our clients and their families. We are weird because we want to support each other to change this profession for the better.
Being weird is a great thing!
I am weird. Are you?
Maybe you are like me. I do not fit the “usual” stereotype of being a lawyer. Think of the show called “Suits” and that is definitely not me. I know I don’t fit the model of what people think a lawyer should act like or look like (thank Gawd for that!). Maybe you are like that too.
I don’t like wearing suits. I wear running shoes most days (unless actually in court). Prior to my ADHD diagnosis I used to self-medicate and was totally open about it. I am gregarious and silly. I don’t take myself too seriously. I like to have a lot of fun. People see me as weird.
If the test to being a great divorce lawyer is that you appear calm all the time, are well put together with the best suits, and you stay distant and objective about your clients’ issues, then I am definitely NOT a great divorce lawyer.
If the test to being a GREAT divorce lawyer is that I get great results for my clients, avoid court whenever possible, thus leaving their children in tact, do not gouge my clients for fees, am transparent about my billings, and that my clients rave about my work and recommend me to friends and family, than I AM a very successful divorce lawyer.
If the test to being a great divorce lawyer is wanting to change this industry to keep families out of court and be less combative, then YES, I am a great divorce lawyer. If this makes me weird, thank fucking Gawd for that!
If you are weird enough, I invite you to work with me to change this family law industry for the better.
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