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Crush Your Stress and Create Freedom in 4 Easy Steps | Season 2 Ep 35

Uncategorized Jan 17, 2022

Crush Your Stress and Create Freedom in 4 Easy Steps

You ever notice that when you have a whole day ahead of you to do “whatever” not much gets done.

I think of my sisters, all retired. They say they don’t have time to do anything. All of their days are rolled out in front of them.

Having stuff booked in your calendar creates freedom!

It also reduces stress,

Of the B.E.S.T. Method this relates to the T, Time Saving Techniques.

Time-Saving Techniques:

  1. BEST Bucks: This is where you serve your clients and create cash flow for you and your law practice. It is all about generating money from your work on client matters.

  2. BEST Leverage: Make no mistake about the importance of this kind of activity. You won’t get anywhere without this. Most lawyers do not do this. This MUST be scheduled and you must protect that time.: This is where you create materials, etc. that will launch your firm forward like creating content, and putting yourself out there.

  3. BEST...
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How to Become a Manifesting MoFo in 3 Easy Steps | Season 2 Ep 34

Uncategorized Jan 10, 2022

How to Become a Manifesting MoFo in 3 Easy Steps


The universe moves its own building blocks – quantum particles – around depending on the information it receives and the certainty of that information. It is as scientific as it is spiritual. - David Cameron Gikandi

This stuff works. I mean it.

My method for manifesting great things in my life has been created by me using a mishmash of a bunch of stuff I have learned from quantum physics, Abraham Hicks, and my day-to-day strategies. This stuff takes discipline and it can be outrageously fun. In fact, if I wake up grumpy, low, or discouraged, I do this process because it completely changes my state. I completely changed.

I do this exact process probably 5 x per week. It works amazingly well. And the things I want to create in my life are showing up and are showing up with greater and great speed.

The kinds of things I have manifested are:

  1. I have balanced financial circumstances allowing me to be in expanded...
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Fu*k Being Normal It Will Kill You | Season 2 Ep 33

Uncategorized Jan 03, 2022

Fu*k Being Normal It Will Kill You

“I know you guys are students and poor, but please give if you can!”

This statement was said at a rally I attended during my undergrad. I remember nothing about the rally or what it was for, but I do remember that comment.

I have never been able to shake the sheer arrogance of that statement.

Being a full-time student felt like the most decadent existence ever.

Because I had been booted out of high school and commenced my undergrad as a “mature” student, I had spent the five years before working in bars, restaurants, and sketchy diners. “Do you want to talk about poor?!” I thought to myself, “Sister, you have no idea . . . “

I remember a friend saying to me (someone who I met at one of those sketchy bars), that the kind of people I hung out with would change. I thought no way, that’ll never happen.

Sex -workers
Drug dealers (ed buzz)
Hungry, dry heaves
Lived with a sex worker, could not go...

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When the WORST Happens! | Season 2 Ep 32

Uncategorized Dec 20, 2021


When the WORST Happens!


Well, what is the WORST that can happen? I mean really?!
For lawyers, it can be that you are deeply embarrassed in front of your colleagues. I have way too many stories where I have deeply embarrassed myself, oh so many.

Finances that came crashing down . . . that was my worst too.
Yet, I had the opportunity this week to see a new absolute worst!
I did a launch this week and nothing, and I mean NOTHING worked despite huge best efforts.

Through my Be the BEST Divorce lawyer programs, I have been building this community of like-minded divorce lawyers. That is, other divorce lawyers that want to do great work, have great clients, make a great living, all the while being ethical and honoring the people we serve.

We all know the family law industry is broken and that brokenness impacts families in a huge way.

So, I decided to do a quick little 5-day complimentary program on Facebook to attract more of those like-minded divorce lawyers. PLUS, I love...

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The C-Word | Season 2 Ep 31

Uncategorized Dec 06, 2021

The C-Word

The C-word is sexist and it is insulting.

No, not C-U-N-T as the British say it to each other quite lightly.

No, not CUSTODY – had to say it (a bit of family law humor).

The C-word I am referencing is defined in dictionaries as an older woman primarily attracted to younger men for sexual relationships.

The C-word is a fucking sexist and derogatory term.

Despite the fact that she is a mega-star, founded her own production company, has completed a triathlon in less than 3 hours, established a non-profit organization, was the first Latin actress to earn over $1,000,000 for a role, and the only woman voted twice as the “sexiest woman of the year,” not even Jennifer Lopez (“Jlo”) is not immune from being called the C-Word. Even J-Lo gets called the C-word by popular media. Why? Because she has had the audacity to show up at famous people's events with a younger man.

It reminds me of years ago when I was at a nightclub with a friend of mine (she was in...

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Who Are Your Rat People? | Season 2 Ep 30

Uncategorized Nov 29, 2021

Who Are Your Rat People?

“Find your rat people” said a guy whose name I have completely forgotten.

Although I cannot remember the guy who taught me this concept, I have totally remembered the concept itself and the way he taught the concept.

Essentially, he was saying, find your “niche.”

Your Niche is your specialized segment of the clients you want to attract.

Essentially, drilling down from being a “Lawyer” to a “family law lawyer” to a “Family Law lawyer who acts for (name your kind of rat people)”

Let me explain!

As he was teaching this concept he was holding a couple of huge and very playful rats. He is a marketer who happens to LOVE rats. Not everyone loves rats. But he does and he has a couple of big fat friendly ones that he holds and cuddles on his videos. For some people, that is the grossest thing in the world. People who are terrified and grossed out by rats, are not is rat people. Guess what?! Those are not...

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Stop Being a Better Lawyer - It Will Get You Nowhere | Season 2 Ep 29

Uncategorized Nov 22, 2021

Stop Being a Better Lawyer - It Will Get You Nowhere


Back in the olden days when I was an articled student and baby lawyer, I was told that the best way to develop a successful law practice was by doing uncompromisingly great work. Be better than the next lawyer and you were sure to succeed.

That might have been the case in the 1990s and before, but to succeed you have to do a heck of a lot more than great work.

Being better than other lawyers, that is more prepared, more researched, and more knowledgeable than other lawyers may get great results for your clients, but being better is not what it takes to succeed.

Okay, um fine, you want to do great work for your clients. At the same time, there are oodles of smart lawyers doing great work for their clients.

I have always tried to be more prepared than my opponent. I have tried to be more organized. I know I have worked harder.

However, just because you are somewhat better (or even a lot better) than another divorce lawyer,...

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Attention Type “A’s” - Here is How You Avoid Falling Flat on Your Face | Season 2 Ep 28

Uncategorized Nov 15, 2021

Ashrita's ever-evolving bio:

As a Certified Hypnotherapist and Personal Power Coach, Ashrita helps high achievers clear their unconscious fears so that they can get out of overwhelm and into consistent action.

Ashrita has created the proven AAHA (Awareness, Acceptance, Heal, and Aligned Action) method, she focuses on subconscious reprogramming, brain habits, emotional mastery, and overall well-being that helps high-achievers break through any limitations from the inside out.

This helps create a massive impact on their personal and business with a ripple effect on their families and community.
This allows the high-achievers she works with to create the impact and life they really want. She believes that our world needs leaders now more than ever to lead by example and help heal the planet.

Ashrita was born in Nepal and received her undergraduate degree in Sociology from Boston College and a Master's in Education and Leadership from the University of Massachusetts. She was the first...

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3 Steps to Leveling up Your Life With Karen Turpin | Season 2 Ep 27

Uncategorized Nov 08, 2021

3 Steps to Leveling up Your Life With Karen Turpin


Make micro-improvements

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Karen Turpin who has been a hypnotherapist, healer, psychic medium and spiritual teacher for almost 25 years.

In that time she has worked with thousands of people from all over the world.

She started to notice that there are so many people into spirituality and personal development who are broke and she realised that no matter how hard they tried, they just couldn't get ahead... so she developed a unique way of working with them that combines spirituality, energy, psychology and subconscious reprogramming.

The result? They were finally free to create a happy, fulfilling and (most importantly) a wealthy and abundant life.

She created Abundance Bootcamp to help female entrepreneurs to finally (!) let go of what’s been holding them back financially so that they can become as wealthy as they’ve always dreamed of becoming,...

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Why NOT doing Dispute Resolution Training is a Disservice to Your Clients and Their Kids | Season 2 Ep 26

Uncategorized Nov 01, 2021

Why NOT doing Dispute Resolution Training is a Disservice to Your Clients and Their Kids


I was reviewing some correspondence on one of my client files. I saw one of many examples of why lawyers who are in family law must do dispute resolution training. I mean, I wonder why we are even allowed to do family law if we do not have this training.

When I say dispute resolution training, I mean mediation skills development, dealing with high-conflict cases, negotiation skills training, conflict resolution training, interest-based negotiation skill development, etc. You know, like all the stuff we did not learn in law school.

Some people call such training ADR, as in alternative dispute resolution. There is nothing alternative about it.

I have been dealing with a lawyer. He seems like a nIce enough person, however, he does not realize the damage he is causing to this family. He is causing damage because his positional communication and threats to go to court are helping nobody,...

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